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Most of the time, men have control over women in relationships. Of course, shyness is often the reason for this, which is understandable. However, this doesn’t make it right. Once friends find out about a girl’s boyfriend imposing power over her, they tend to support it and be in on it, as well. Often times, they act just as nonchalant as the boyfriend. They tend not to hang out with their friend as much, ignore some of her texts and insult her. This may make their friend depressed. While their actions can be rationalized, staying indoors all the time can cause depression.
So how can women take control in relationships?
• Approach. If you’re a girl and you want to have the power in a relationship, you need to start from the beginning. If you’re already dating someone, chances are he’s already exerting his power over you. This means if you attempt to gain control, you’ll both be fighting for power. This could cause bickering, which could lead to a breakup.
• Make sure you’re in front of the person. As a woman, you need to be in front of the person to exert your influence. If you meet a guy online, he’s usually already planned his strategy with you. He will most likely run once he figures out you’re the ringleader. There’s no way to read body language or tone online either. When you meet someone in person, say at a club or library, there are certain clues you can drop that would make them subject to you. For instance, you could laugh when they do one thing that seems offbeat, sniff in disgust at his behind or gently criticize him. Don’t be too harsh, though. You don’t want the experience to be unpleasant or awkward. When you introduce yourself to someone in person, it’s harder for them to leave. They could leave as soon as you hint you’re in charge, but that would be awkward. It may also make him look like a jerk in front of his friends. If a guy really likes you, most of the time he won’t walk away.
• Be more insulting. You may not want to come off as cold, but you need to be the meaner one of the two. Remember: in order for you to have control, you need to do something about it. In today’s world, this means being mean. If your crush makes fun of you, you need to be the bigger bully. Don’t be afraid of hurting his feelings, unless you’re too cruel. You’d be surprised how many people are positive these days.
• Have a surprise planned. When someone has the power in a relationship, it’s usually because they have a surprise for their honey. The surprise is often commitment, with romantic surprises in between. Cards, poems, chocolate, gifts – they all contribute to the power in relationships. Of course it takes a long time to reach each level of commitment, which is why one person often has the power. Girls, never cross proposing off the agenda. I’ve seen women do it on TV, and it was rather charming. It’s about time we fight for our rights, beginning with relationships.
Now you have a general idea of how to gain control in a relationship, as a woman. Just remember not to be too harsh. While it would be nice to have the power for once, we eventually want to live in a world where surprises don’t require malice on all fronts. We often know how someone is going to respond to a grand gesture. There is no need to make him or her suffer.
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