
"He loves me. He loves me not. He loves me..."
When one is seeing someone or simply interested in someone, s/he can go into a thought frenzy: Does s/he like me? Is s/he trustworthy? S/he talked to so-and-so today; does that mean s/he likes him/her? However, the worst thing one could possibly do when s/he is in like is to analyze. Unless someone is your boyfriend or girlfriend and is acting shady, don’t analyze!
One should not draw conclusions from another person’s actions while the latter person is single; many things can be interpreted the wrong way. These include mind games and playing the field. For instance, one’s trying to determine one’s level of loyalty is nearly impossible when one is single. Many people keep their options open, because they are uncertain of their love interests’ intentions and how long they’ll stick around. Moreover, many of my past admirers have flirted with all the women in the vicinity when they thought that I was uninterested. While this did result in making me jealous, as intended, I determined that the men I was so keen on weren’t 100% interested in me and were likely to cheat in a relationship; I was wrong!
One’s communicating with a friend of the opposite sex can also be misconstrued as flirting; if you are the jealous type, try to keep your envy in check so that you can read the situation thoroughly and accurately. Furthermore, if someone hits on your love interest, don’t fret; either make your interest known or if it has been established already, be consistent with your affection, and you have nothing to lose. Besides, you can’t guarantee that the apple of your eye is interested in the new person pursuing him/her either.
Moreover, if one’s object of admiration is a flirt, this tendency does not necessarily mean that s/he will cheat. I know a few men whom I would absolutely trust with my life, and they’ve flirted with many women even while in a relationship. Besides, there is always the chance that someone who is very flirtatious will quit his/her doting ways when dating someone.
The moral of the story is that jumping to conclusions is inaccurate and will only cause you unnecessary stress, especially while single and reading into your crush’s actions.
While certain behaviours may be flat-out red flags, like someone’s admitting to being someone’s other man or woman, others are perfectly harmless and should not be dissected. You’ll save yourself time and worry by not sweating the insignificant details. Only worry about such issues when you are in a relationship.








