Let’s be honest—that first date was awkward as hell.
The whole time, you were hoping to whoever you hope to that the last piece of salad wasn’t stuck to your teeth—and the movie after dinner wasn’t easy, either.
Who can focus on a movie when they’ve got her sitting shotgun, right?
I mean, every time she yawns or stretches or brushes against you, you’re reading into it
–hoping to whoever you hope to–
that you’re taking her home tonight.
Okay, playboy, let’s assume she’s a good girl; let’s assume your sorry ass went to bed alone and woke up wondering if right now is too soon to call her back.
Here’s my first tip for setting up that second date;
right now is too soon to call her back.
Just like everything else about dating, there are unspoken rules to setting up another dinner, another movie, another whatever.
Rules to keep you from looking desperate.
Rules to keep you from appearing aggressive.
Rules to keep you from blowing it.
You will eventually; you’re a guy, and blowing it is what we do. To keep you from blowing it right now, here’s some rules to remember before picking up the phone.
1.) Grab your cell; put her number in speed dial.
You’re going to be nervous when you dial; you don’t want to call ten different digits by accident. By the time you get her number right, you’ll be tired of being yelled at by Hungarian men with suspiciously similar voicemails.
2.) Don’t panic when you get her on the line.
Remember, Romeo, if your date went reasonably well, she wants to see you again—sound casual, but speak with confidence when you tell her—
3.)—You want to do something wild.
‘Wild’ is in italics because ‘wild’ is important. ‘Wild’ is spontaneous,
‘wild’ is adventurous. ‘Wild’ is fun. ‘Wild’ is safe. Wild is not taking her to a swingers party just to show her how ‘bad-ass’ you are.
4.) Incorporate elements you learned on Date Number One. This is where you should have been paying attention, boys; everyone knows first dates are job interviews (–the job just happens to be sleeping together, or, at the very least, building the foundation of a prospective future relationship–) so hopefully you used your question of the inevitable question-and-answer period to learn important things; places she’s never been, foods she’s never tried, etc.
5.) For God’s sake, show up on time.
Seriously, you’d be amazed how often we blow this one.
So, there you have it—a couple of fool-proof tips to engaging her interest in sitting across a table from you again.
If you need my help on dinner conversations, awkward pauses, or longing glances over candlelight—
–you may be better off alone.
