Femme Fatale: Women Making the First Move

     That’s right – we’re talking about initiating conversation, flirtation, and invites. Why can’t women do it? It seems these days there is an importance placed on women playing hard to get while men do all the pursuing. This seems a bit unfair and even absurd, considering the number of different kinds of people in the world and the situations in which they meet. Sometimes the female may be the more outgoing, open persona while the male keeps his feelings to himself. Perhaps both are shy. Perhaps both are outgoing, but afraid to reveal their true feelings. No matter the case, women should not feel prohibited from doing the chasing.

     For those who don’t know how to go about it, making your interest known can be as subtle as saying:
“I can’t understand why all my girlfriends fawn over Lil’ Wayne. In my opinion, his style is horrendous. You on the other hand always manage to look good”
or texting your crush to say
“Oh gosh, this lecture is so boring. I’d rather hang out with you than be here.”
These approaches don’t give too much away, but rather hint at your emotions.
     However, I heed you, ladies: be aware of your audience. That means read into the guy’s behaviour to determine whether he likes to be chased or would prefer to do the chasing. It’s actually quite easy and all it involves is observing his reactions to your flirting/body language. For instance, I once gauged that a classmate had a crush on me when he seemed unenthusiastic about our conversations when I spoke first. However, when I didn’t acknowledge his presence in group settings, he appeared very intrigued – saying hello to me first and finding reasons to be around me all the time, even though he was supposed to be heading to class! – and eventually asked me out on a dinner date.

     On the other hand, I’ve met men who have absolutely soaked up my compliments and after a little work on my part, they returned my courting with equal efforts. Women, don’t be discouraged from making the first move! Some men are shy and afraid to wear their hearts on their sleeves. Being courageous definitely has its rewards. If you never try, how will you ever know for certain whether or not he feels the same way about you? Even though there is chance he just wants to be friends, I always say it is better to take a chance and find out than to not take one at all! You don’t want to be left wondering the rest of your life and living with the consequence – deep regret.

     Just like how men risk being rejected when they ask a lady out, you risk your flatteries not being returned. This doesn’t mean you’re not a great catch! You’re always capable of finding someone else who simply adores you. Hold a high opinion of yourself no matter what and you will go far in life. Good luck with the hunting! All the best to you, girls!!