Many people have had their share of confusion and/or suspicion over certain questionable behaviours displayed by their significant others in the past or present. Some may have even partaken. The point is that there are gray areas in what is considered cheating in the present age. Everyone has their own opinion on the subject and many contrast – some people view others’ views on the matter as uptight or rigid while others’ are too loose or flexible. The topic of discussion today is flirting while in a relationship.
Some may say that flirting is harmless and that it leads to nothing. I, on the other hand, have a different view. If your sweetie is secretly doing this behind your back, it tells you that s/he’s untrustworthy. This is an act of disrespect and it should not be tolerated. It also may be a sign that s/he feels there is something missing from your relationship. Some of my closest friends who have cheated have given me insight as to why they did it. Most have confessed they felt their partner was distant and/or the relationship was lacking in some area(s).
To those who are being flirted with by those who are emotionally taken: Do not have hope. Like Samantha on Sex and the City always says, someone in a relationship will never leave their partner for you. People stick with what they’ve got. Although they may not be in the most ideal relationship, one often gets attached to his/her partner and will not leave no matter how complicated or problematic the pair’s history seems to be. The flirtee could be a more desirable choice in a companion, but the taken person often doesn’t realize that. In the rare event that they do, their emotions often bind them unconditionally to their current lover.
If someone is flirting with you while s/he is taken, s/he probably doesn’t have the guts to break up with the partner that is causing them so much stress. Hence, the flirting begins to ease the pain and irritation they feel while “trapped” in the relationship. Of course, I’m sure there is the odd time that someone may break up with their partner for a mistress, but this is occasional and you do not want to get your hopes up too high. Never forget that if this person is flirting with you while in a relationship, if you two were an item, s/he’d most likely do the same to you. Do you really want to date someone like that?
It is hard to say whether flirting leads to more intense betrayals of trust by a significant other. In some cases, it does, while in others, it does not. My personal opinion is that flirting with (an)other person(s) while off the dating market is disrespectful to one’s other half. There is no reason or good excuse for doing it. If one cannot be emotionally – and physically – loyal to one person, s/he should not be in a relationship at all.
