We all have our insecurities. That’s why it may boggle some of us when a love interest spends the majority of a date sending text messages, while we do all the talking. However, there is likely no need to worry.
In addition to non-stop texting, these are just some of the dating behaviours I have experienced while on dates with men who allegedly were very interested in me:
-Ogling the profiles of females nearby;
-Not acknowledging my comments throughout a movie;
-Cancelling of a birthday dinner (that I was prepared to splurge on), because he was too tired;
-Watching him smile as girls flirted with him, although he turned them down; and
-Him suggesting that we spend time with one of his companions, who is also a woman, on a third date.
While I regarded these behaviours as disrespectful, and some or all of them probably were, each of these flings managed to turn into long-term relationships. Thus, I feel that as daters, we shouldn’t read into signs too much. Not to mention, while on the dating scene, no one is completely committed to us, nor are we to them. Therefore, one should not be offended that another person is not showing him or her devotion until the two enter a meaningful relationship. However, if a date’s behaviour is completely off-putting to someone, then that person is entitled to end romantic relations with the culprit.
There are, of course, particular cases where rude or unusual behaviour may be an indication of a person’s character. For instance, some signals may be clues that a person is untrustworthy, and other signs may hint that a person won’t treat you the way you deserve to be treated. There are clear-cut signs and there are vague ones. Sometimes, there are none at all. Whatever the case, one will not know how a person will act during a relationship unless they experience a relationship with him or her. That’s why the concept of breakups exists. Thus, I feel it is important for one to put their insecurities aside when dating. Enjoy the experience. Whatever the outcome, the process was amusing and made us feel desirable.
