Photographer: Roberto Petillo
Everyone has their preconceived notions about dating, but is there a difference between one’s beliefs and the truth? The answer to this question is yes; sometimes one’s insecurities lead him or her to believe things which are not, in fact, reality. Below are some questionable behaviours displayed by a love interest that are often times nothing to worry about:
Him/her hitting on other people
-Although this action seems sketchy, if you two are not officially a couple yet, most of the time this is nothing over which to worry. A lot of the time people like to keep their options open, because they fear that the object of their desire will not remain interested in them for long, or that he or she does not have the right intentions. Once you two become exclusive, your partner’s fear will most likely subside, and his or her excessive flirting will be ruled out of the equation. However, be sure to exercise caution with this person. There is still a slight chance that he or she may be unfaithful while in an exclusive relationship or that your love interest would prefer an open relationship to a more serious one.
Him/her not returning your text messages
-Sometimes this can be a sign that the person you’re seeing is seeing other people or isn’t interested anymore, but if he or she skips one or two texts infrequently, then there is most likely nothing to fear. People often become preoccupied with responsibilities or nights out on the town, leaving them not much time to answer text messages. Be wary, though, if this is a frequent problem or if you notice a pattern. (*Pay special attention if you notice that your love interest never lets you know what he or she is doing. This is a sign that he or she may be dating someone else.)
Him/her seeing other people
-Often times someone will date many people at once out of insecurity. As mentioned earlier, he or she may be insecure, and unsure what the future holds for him or her and a romantic interest. At the same time, this person may not be trustworthy. However, the person is single and is technically not at fault. Thus, it is uncertain whether or not the polygamous dater can be trusted once in an exclusive romantic relationship; there is no way of knowing other than by dating him or her. If you suspect your crush to be seeing multiple people, be sceptical of his or her trustworthiness, but don’t fret. There is equally a chance of him or her being faithful while in a relationship with you.
If you notice any of the suspicious behaviour mentioned above being demonstrated by a crush or someone you’re seeing, be critical of them, but don’t spend all your time worrying. Maintain a positive attitude and focus on establishing and strengthening the connection between the two of you. However, once you two are in a monogamous relationship, you will able to legitimately evaluate his or actions. Best of luck!
