For some reason, many males possess the preconceived notion that women are attracted to men who treat them as inferiors. To me, this theory sounds like it was cooked up by a good-hearted gentleman who got turned down multiple times; only a small fraction of women like “douchebags”. The majority of us just want to meet a genuinely moral, sweet person.
While some women may be dating jerks, these men’s cruelty is most likely NOT what drew these ladies to their now-boyfriends. The fact of the matter is that most desirable men are douchebags. One’s being a douchebag, on the other hand, won’t make him/her desirable. Most well-intentioned, honest males are usually not as attractive as many women would like them to be. Moreover, many trustworthy men may be lacking the personality that their romantic flames need in order to remain entertained. However, that is not to say that all “good guys” are boring or unattractive. There are a rare few who are both physically appealing and amusing. However, no one knows at first glance whether someone is reliable, humorous, or kind – normally, good looks and/or an outgoing personality are what grab one’s attention. Thus, women do not seek “douchebags”; a large fraction of them simply have the wrong priorities.
Here are some behaviours that “douchebags” display of which numerous females are fond:
-They aren’t clingy. As much as we all love attention, no one wants to be smothered. Showing your lady too much affection can make her feel suffocated and possibly push her away;
-They know how to play hard-to-get. Of course, it is necessary at first to express interest in someone on whom one is crushing. However, if one is too available, one may take him/her for granted. Also, one’s asking for a commitment upon meeting is a bit much and enough to send someone packing; and
-They are socially adept. Many good guys lack the quality of knowing how to network and socialize, because many were alienated in their younger years. Thus, they are more likely to behave awkwardly in social situations. This means they be hesitant to approach an interesting female, or they may share embarrassing/unnecessary details that will turn her off.
Thus, perhaps more women would gravitate towards the good-natured male if many of them just changed a few of their behaviours. After all, one’s being a decent person is what keeps a significant other around; one’s social skills are what land him/her dates. Therefore, most women aren’t fans of douchebag qualities; it is merely a coincidence that many of the more sociable men happen to be unreliable and disrespectful.
