It’s immature and backstabbing. It’s shocking and completely out of one’s control.
Everyone has people in their lives with whom they are not the most agreeable. But what does one do when a friend or acquaintance attempts to ruin his/her lovelife?
Here are some tips on how to deal with such treachery:
Step 1: Eliminate the Perpetrator.
Even though you may have had some fun times with this shady character and may have grown fond of him/her, s/he is guaranteed to repeat the same mistake. This painstaking occurrence has proven that your once-comrade is in fact untrustworthy and even though s/he may apologize and promise not to do it again, you’re putting your fate in his/her hands. Do you really want that? In fact, this revelation of character also means that perhaps your “friend” will deceive you in other ways as well. Removing all contact with this person not only means you won’t have to deal with such ploys in the future, but that the current situation won’t escalate further. On a side note, you might want to delete and/or block said person on your accounts on social networking sites like Facebook; this way, s/he will not be able to contact anyone in your social circle, including your significant other.
Step 2: Explain to Your Sweetie.
When a former pal tries to delete the trust between you and your other half, your mate may need some reassurance of who remains to be the genuine person – you or your two-timing buddy. Clarification of the situation may aid you in regaining your partner’s confidence in yourself and repair the relationship. However, if s/he flees, chalk it up to your ex not being understanding enough to be with you.
Step 3: Clear Your Name
If unpleasant rumours have surfaced about you to your family or friends, attempt to clear up the issue immediately. That way, all your relationships can go back to normal, not just your romantic one.
Most importantly, when such an unexpected and hurtful thing occurs, one must not take it personally. Everyone has disloyal friends. The motives for their actions are unknown – some may stem from insecurity, jealousy, greed, and so forth – but they most likely have nothing to do with anything you did. Some people just cannot be trusted. Period.
With that said, I hope that no one ever has to go through such an awful experience. Not only is it a nuisance, but it is disappointing to discover that one’s friends are not really friends at all. Remember: friends care about your happiness and your well-being. Some may say they do, while others really do. Don’t fret. There are better and more reliable pals out there!
